Of ponies and parenting

My sweet T just loves horses. I don’t know where she gets it, but she has that true devotion–passion–and innate ability that just floors me. She’s been fascinated with them since she turned 2. And it has only grown stronger and more fervent. I knew I was in for the long haul as a horseback mama when she wanted me to take her to work at the barn one Saturday. No ride. Just mucking stalls. This is Taylor with her riding instructor, Erin. Erin has been such a blessing to our family. She is a Godly woman who motivates and inspires Taylor. I love that they both have on pink shirts (Moms Panel pink, I call it-my Disney friends will get this one)! And did you read my girl’s shirt? It says “Yes, I was raised in a barn.” Yes, she is horse crazy. Which makes it even harder as a parent when inevitably, your wonderful, loving, kind child temporarily becomes the spawn of Satan in her attitude and you MUST take away the thing she loves the most. (I feel as if I’m letting you glimpse into our evening last night with that last statement). But certain situations call for tough parenting, and a crackdown was already brewing for the past few days. I absolutely know that punishing her by taking horseback away is the most effective tool I have–but I can’t help but feel it undermines the commitment/dedication character I’m trying to instill in the kids. You know what this sounds like: “we have committed to this activity for the year and we’re going to follow through.” But what their behavior trumps that, all bets are off. Game changer. Ah, parenting, why does it have to throw so many curveballs? (shakes hand at the sky)

Any sage advice you can offer on what works for you? Or reassurance would be welcome, too…I could sure use it! (sigh)

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4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rebecca Lewis Youngblood
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 17:12:11

    I have no sage advice, but I do agree with your thoughts and your decision. Too many parents are not willing to teach their children that actions and behavior have consequences and sometimes the consequences are painful for everyone. I am looking to good parents like you to help me ease into the difficult tween years and I look forward to an update on this particular parenting dilema. Thanks again for being open and honest.

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    • sherryboswell
      Oct 07, 2011 @ 14:09:58

      Thanks, Rebecca-it truly is perplexing and makes you question your judgment to be sure. Maybe that explains the gray hairs that are suddenly appearing (ugh)! I appreciate you placing me in the “good parent” category 🙂 All I can say is “I try.”

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  2. Evelyn
    Oct 10, 2011 @ 06:02:12

    I’m here to give reassurance. In our house it’s take away the Xbox from one or tell the other one, no friends over (bet you can guess which kid gets which punishment). The good part comes in the future when they know the threat is real and imminent and they take you seriously. You’re a great mom or it wouldn’t bother you!

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    • sherryboswell
      Oct 10, 2011 @ 08:41:49

      Thanks, Evelyn! I like the phrase “real and imminent”-sounds like a Harrison Ford movie or something! Oh I guarantee she takes me seriously now 🙂

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